First, let me say something right up front that needs to be said.

Women hate porn typically because they suck. Which is to say, women typically suck. Most women use and even view sex as a means of manipulating men. Debate that all you want, deny it all you want, I see it every single day and it’s prevalent whenever the issues of sex and men are even referenced by women in any context.

To that end, porn is viewed by most women as competition. Someone somewhere is offering free sex without any strings attached and that ticks them off. A lot. For those women porn is bad for that reason alone and no other reason is necessary for them to hate it intensely.

Those women suck. They and their perspective on sex fuel a whole lot of misogyny. Thanks, ladies. The rest of us, those possessed of some reason, really appreciate your efforts but we’d rather you sit down and shut the hell up now, if you don’t mind too terribly. I really don’t appreciate the suggestion that sex isn’t something we desire and enjoy sharing.

This suggestion that it’s a gift, reward or prize that we, as women, award those who are worthy seriously pisses me off. It reinforces everything misogyny represents.

Second, the argument that porn fuels sexual addiction is a pretty bad argument. Alcohol fuels alcoholism but I don’t support outlawing alcohol. I drink alcohol now and again myself, in fact. It would distress me a bit if it was outlawed. I don’t think I’d launch a major grassroots campaign about the issue or anything but it would bum me out a good bit.

So why do I hate porn then?

Because I understand what it is. It’s masturbation fantasy on crack.

Let’s be honest here. Everyone masturbates. And when we do that thing, we don’t typically wait until we’re so frustrated that orgasm is achievable without any effort. We’re usually so bad at deferred gratification that we run off at the first stirrings of lust looking for an orgasm. Those of us who haven’t a sex partner of some sort close at hand, and requiring little effort to engage to that end, jump at the option of masturbating. And since we’re usually barely aroused to begin with achieving the arousal necessary for orgasm requires some actual effort.

Hence, we have sexual fantasy. It’s only purpose is to arouse. We all have our fantasies. We all invest significant imagination in developing these fantasies. It should be no surprise that someone somewhere hit on the idea of producing, packaging and selling these fantasies to us.

It’s actually a pretty ingenious idea. What a handy little product. I can totally get why men love this idea. I think for women the fantasies necessary to elicit that level of arousal require a bit more detail than can easily be produced and packaged that way, though. We have romance novels after all instead. Yes, it would seem you have to write a whole book to properly flesh out a good sexual fantasy for a female. For a male, you don’t need much more than a picture. Either way, the end result is the same and you just have to admit it was a great idea by whoever came up with it first.

The problem is this, though. Our own, individual sexual fantasies are one thing. They have only so much power over us. Producing a virtual sexual fantasy though…that’s rather like producing crack cocaine as an alternative to natural endorphin production.

You can do all kinds of things to feel good naturally…or you can just take a hit of crack. Either way, same thing right? Well, no. Apparently not. One is actually good and healthy for you and the other destroys your entire person.

And I’m not even suggesting masturbation is good and healthy for you. I think it’s amoral, meaning it can be either good or bad depending. I also think we almost never do it in any kind of healthy way. It’s difficult even coming up with a good, healthy sexual fantasy. I can do it and I’ve even done it. But it actually requires effort. Some level of perversity is so much easier and so much more arousing. So we tend to go with that.

But still. Point stands. Porn is the crack cocaine version of sexual fantasy. It’s destructive for all the same reasons crack cocaine is destructive.

It’s destructive because it perverts something natural. In fact, it can only provide the apparent benefit that it does by perverting something natural. Case in point: can someone provide me with an example of wholesome porn? Seriously. Is such a thing not an oxymoron? Who doesn’t define porn by it’s very perversity? Everyone does. That’s what porn is. It’s perverse. Everyone knows this.

This is why we see those who embrace pornography descend so rapidly into perversity. Much like the drug abuse I reference with my little “crack cocaine” analogy, you’re practically forced to seek greater and greater depths of perversity to achieve the same level of arousal. Eventually you reach your baseline perversity, just as any drug addict eventually reaches a baseline. And just like a drug addict, that baseline is almost always extremely unhealthy. Usually morbidly so.

After all, about as many people “dabble” in drug abuse as “dabble” in pornography. Rather a clue the whole thing is destructive.

So I don’t have a problem with alcohol but rather with alcoholism and alcohol abuse. I have beer in my fridge right now. Yet I wouldn’t bring a beer to church. Consider that a bit.

At the same time I certainly do have a problem with crack cocaine. I don’t use it and I’d advocate executing anyone who produces and sells it. It’s that destructive.

Likewise porn is more on the crack cocaine side of the spectrum. It’s not beer. Something that I wouldn’t bring to church but I still don’t object to having in my own fridge.
It’s crack. Something I’d never do and which I encourage my government to outlaw as a death penalty crime to produce or distribute.

Porn requires one to embrace sexual perversity. It is, in fact, sexual perversity. And like any other form of sexual perversity, it is never satisfied with itself. Perversity, by it’s very nature, insists upon greater and greater perversity. It will, always, drag you down until you can literally be no more perverse than you are. And unfortunately, for human beings, that level of perversity is always way past anything that can be considered remotely healthy.

Case in point: Heterosexual women typically despise porn. Homosexual women typically love it. Why is that, do you think?

I hate porn because I hate sexual perversity. I hate sexual perversity because it is destructive. It always leads to destruction. That is the very nature of any perversity.